Decisions…Decisions……
What do you want to be when you grow up?
That’s a question we’ve all be asked since birth. I can remember some of my answers; an astronaut in second grade, and the only reason I said that is because it was Shannon Sass’s answer and it sounded pretty damn cool. Later in my upbringings I wanted to be a fireman, farmer, police office, bartender, game warden, porn-star, carpenter, musician/songwriter, and an optometrist. Some of those things are a little far fetched, like the musician, and the astronaut but I think if I really wanted to I could be any of the others. But here I am, seven years out of school and I’m an Airman. I’m at war, fighting for our country; never would have guessed that.
I’m not even sure what sparked the initial decision other than money for college. But Monts, Helf, and I were going to join up on the buddy system so we could go rock the AF wherever we went but that just didn’t work out for some reason. I don’t regret my decision; I’ve been to places and done things I’ve only dreamed about. I’ve meet the most incredible people in the world and made friendships that will last a life time. But there comes the time to make the decision whether to stay or go in the AF. Re-enlistment. I’m on my second enlistment, and the decision to re-enlist the first time was probably the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make, until now. I hurt some people when I decided it; my mom cried because it meant I would have to be away longer. Sharlie wasn’t too terribly happy with me; I think she cried a bit too. There were a few others that it affected also. But everyone understood why and stood behind my decision.
I re-enlisted because I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my life. I didn’t have any plan for getting out, and had to make a decision rather hastily after a deployment. The first four years weren’t too bad and so what’s four more. I still don’t regret it, because in the last three years I’ve grown-up immensely and progressed in my life and career a great deal and I’m damn proud of the man I’ve become. But like all good things this enlistment is coming to an end and I’m once again at a crossroads in my life and have to make the decision again. The big difference this time is another enlistment will put me with over ten years in service and over half way to retirement. Decisions…Decisions…
So now what do I do? It all goes back to the same question; What do you want to be when you grow up? It’s been probably 20 years since I first heard this question and I’m still drawing a blank. I would really like to separate from the service and start a new life. I say a new life because when you’re in the service it’s a way of life not just a job. I don’t want to be 40 and just starting a new life without the service. Plus I don’t think I could handle being deployed half the year if I ever get a wife and kids; that would tear me up. I have one year and some change left on this enlistment and I’m starting to get myself lined up to get out; which is something I should have done the first go round. But I can always fall back on the AF because it’s easier. I’m completely indecisive.
I sit and think about what I what to achieve with my life and came come up with a ton of stuff. I’d like to start a family, settle down in one place for a while, buy a house and fix it up, go to college, be a regular guy with job who reads the paper every morning and works some over time, on a bowling league, enjoy the weekends like a normal person. I’d like to get hitched but that’s something I don’t have a whole lot of control over and it also makes me second guess my decision about getting out. The world is a huge place and I haven’t met everyone yet, so I could miss my chance with her if I get out but; on the turn of the coin I could also miss her if I don’t get out. Sometimes I think I’d be easier to walk away from everything if I had a wife; I know it sounds weird but hell I’d never be alone and I’d have someone to tell me what to do. I’m completely indecisive.
But what I want to achieve with my career I haven’t a clue. I don’t want to go to college get a degree and get a job with it, I want to go to college to get an education and dabble in everything. I don’t want a degree plan, I want to take all the course that interest me and quench my thirst for knowledge. I can’t comment to a degree in one certain thing, because I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. What happens when I get that degree and that job and I don’t like it? Was it all a waste? Do I go back to school and try it again? I’m completely indecisive.
This is what I feel like; I could stick this out till retirement which wouldn’t be too hard if I’m single. I could go back to good ol’ Illinois where thing are familiar to me and I know people to help me starting out. Or I could just abandon everything I know as a career and go start new somewhere. I’ve put a lot of thought into the third option. Just selling everything I don’t need and moving somewhere, North Carolina or the Florida Keys and just making it work. Working a job, making my rent and just living life without worry. Money isn’t important, my values are the only thing I need to get by with. I’m completely indecisive.
I wish someone could just tell me what to do. I wish it was an easier decision. I wish a lot. But no matter what I do or where I’m at, I’m certain one day, I want a family, a house, a dog, and a job. The job I could honestly give a damn about. I don’t care what I do as long as I’m challenged and don’t get bored with it. The salary doesn’t matter I’ve been poor before and know how to deal with that. I just want to have some job satisfaction at the end of each day knowing I’ve earned my days wages. Honest work, but in what career? And also since I’m 25 now I need to think about retirement and health benefits. Which adds to the problem of the job.
This is what’s rattling my cage a lot these days. I think about it more than I think about the bike, booze, and sex; which is a goddamn lot. I don’t know the answer to the questions I’m asking myself and it’s going to drive me to the nut house. Some day I’ll figure it all out, just ask me on the 30th of September next year.